I Love the work that I do. It is my Passion and my Calling. And since my work revolves around the connection between couples; married or not...I thought I would take this opportunity to give some sisterly advice to each of the sexes...starting with us 'women'...or those of us who are dominant with Feminine Energy. My next blog will be my advice to the men.

Please note that in the best interest of using words effectively; that I will use the words 'Women' and 'Men' as the means to identify the Feminine and the Masculine Energy. You can be a masuculine woman and relate more to what "men" go through...or an effeminate man - and relate to the feminine energy in your relationship. The terms "man" and "woman" are used to speak directly to that which is primarily "masculine" or "feminine" within each of us.

Society has done a disservice to our men...and in doing so, we have all paid the price. Through a project called "The Feminine Touch Movement", I am seeking to equip women to be an Oasis - for refreshing...and to be a Healer for their man. Men today are confused...and together...we can restore what's been lost...and bring about the benefits of the current-day evolution that we are experiencing - into the bedroom and beyond.

Not too long ago, the number one show on television was called "Father Knows Best". We looked up to the Leadership that the Masculine provides. Today...we are inindated with television shows, movies and commercials where the man is seen as clueless...while the strong and beautiful wife or partner rolls her eyes - and the children laugh. These can be amusing at times...but the overall message is clear. The respect that we once had for Men has diminished.

This is the backlash of the Women's Movement. Although I believe the movement was necessary and helpful in most ways...the pendulum has swung a bit too far and it wasn't so much about having the  "Choice" to be a wife, stay-at-home mom or to choose to work. The former choice became symbolic of oppressed and weak women. And instead of being proud to 'stand by your man'...we became ridiculed for it. This has been a detriment to the core functioning of famiies.

I am grateful for the Feminist Movement that came before me so that I could experience the freedoms I do. But I also see that most of us women are pretty tired and worn. We want to be with our families...but the demands of this world often keep us from being fully present with them. We used to be cheerleaders to our men. Encouraging them as they went out for the hunt...in the world to provide for the family. They would come home to a tender love that would wipe their brow. Even Jesus needed that tenderness and received it from the Nurturing Feminine Energy.

One of the Joys of the Feminine Energy is to be a support to those we love. It does not diminish our value. It is our Power. Of course we can still have a successful career, interests of our own, higher education and wonderfully fulfilling friends in addition to our motherly obligations. We CAN have it all...just not all at the same time. And in the pursuit of finding Who We Are...I fear we've forgotten that Tender, Nurturing Love... that is so precious to the men we love. I call this special tenderness - our 'wiping of their brow'. 

My encouragement for us women is to remember that our men are not perfect. And (gasp!!) neither are we. We all need to let go of fault-finding and trying to change our partner into who we think they should be. Let's learn to praise what is 'right' - while extending mercy when mistakes are made. Resolve to be the ONE person on the face of the earth that can be our man's "soft place to land". I know that when we share our unique gift of nurturing tender love - we will be the ones who will fully understand why it is "More Blessed to Give than to Receive". Because trust me...it is IN the Giving that we Receive - all the Treasures of the Masculine Soul. 

In this fast-paced society, we want everything now. With drive-thru restaurants, instant access to information, deadlines and full schedules...it's no wonder we feel stress at every turn. And when the day is done and we retire to our beds (our sacred place) with our Beloved...we hit the pillow and we are fast asleep.  OR...for the times that we do set aside to make love...we continue the fast-paced rhythm and quickly go for the orgasm before we fall asleep.

What I love most about Tantra is that it is a physical, spiritual and emotional meditation. To be able to share that with the One you Love...is especially beautiful.

It is pure seduction. A dance. Watch as your fingers slowly play on the skin of your partner. Step outside yourself as you enjoy this hypnotizing dance of seduction. Slowly breathe in air - with gratitude - and allow your skin to feel every sensation. Let the goosebumps arise as you lightly stroke, tease...stir the passion and pleasure one another.

As you focus on your partner...take your time. And remember that seduction begins with kindness. In the morning and throughout the day. Treating your partner as if they were the most important person on Earth. Because they are. Honor them with your words, your time, your service in big and small ways. The trash, the dishes...a surprise gift. Always be encouraging to your Beloved. Keep the spark alive with small acts of kindness and when it is time for your evening time together...that spark will light the burning flame within...and keep the Home Fires Burning Bright.